Connecting with Your Kids in Any Circumstance :: Jim & Lynne Jackson {Ep 98}

November 30, 2015 | encouragement, family, God Centered Mom Podcast, Holidays, mothering, wisdom |

After hours in the car, on the 2nd day of a road trip, my boys' behavior was expectantly wild.

And no amount of threats, harsh tones, or stern looks helped me control them.

I knew our hearts were far from connected.

But I didn't know what else to do.  So we stayed stuck in a negative cycle of misbehavior-threat-consequence-more misbehavior. . .

The next day I recorded this interview with parenting experts, Jim & Lynne Jackson (from Connected Families).

((Remember their wonderful back-to-back episodes? Episode 80 and Episode 81))

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Jim asked me, "How do you think things would have gone differently if you had made your primary goal mentoring belief instead of managing behavior?"

Um, everything?

If I had focused on the truth about our situation, had shown my boys empathy, and had given them a healthy energy outlet then our evening would have gone drastically different.

I know stressful times will continue to come over the next month of holiday busyness.  Thankfully after chatting with Jim & Lynne I feel more prepared to connect with my boys in any circumstance.

Pursuing connecting in the way God perseveres to pursue connection with us. -Jim & Lynne Jackson

In this episode we apply their 4-layer framework (see below) to my stressful holiday travel situation. We also talk about how to connect with a child you don't like well. And what to do if your efforts to connect are not being received.

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What we chat about:

  • The busyness of the holidays and how it inhibits connection with our kids.
  • Showing yourself self-compassion.
  • What phrases are you repeating in your mind that fuel anxiety.
  • How to apply the Connecting Families framework to a stressful situation Heather experienced.
  • Why kids can behave better at school/other places and fall apart at home.
  • Working with your kids in challenging scenarios.
  • How to connect with our kids when we don't even like them.
  • Dealing with your need to get parents' approval (the grandparents) when kids misbehave.
  • When the lies we believe about our kids impacts our ability to connect.
  • What to do when you are trying to connect with your child and they are not responding.
  • An easy way to connect with your kids on a regular basis (holidays included).
  • Working with your kids to prepare for the holidays.

Connect with Jim & Lynne:

Connected Families Site :: Facebook :: Twitter :: Pinterest

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