The Secrets to Being a Happy Wife

January 6, 2014 | 5 comments

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Did that title grab you or what?

Does it seem rare to hear about a “happy wife”, a woman content and satisfied in her marriage?

I don’t know about you but there have definitely been seasons in our marriage where I’ve struggled being the “happy wife”.

Believe me, it’s never been my husband’s fault (He’s the whole package, and a bag a chips).


My discontent comes when I rely too heavily on Bruce to fill ALL my needs. When I’m not spending time with God and I’m not reaching out to girlfriends, those are the times I am disappointed. Because God made Bruce to be my helpmate, not my everything.

On the other hand, when I’m fully dependent on God, calling friends regularly to chat, and making sure I meet Bruce’s needs**?

That’s when I’m a member of the Happy Wives Club.

So, what’s the Happy Wives Club, you may be wondering…

It’s a real thing! My friend, Fawn Weaver, was tired of all the negative media about marriage, especially felt it didn’t represent her fulfilling marriage. So she took action and emailed a couple friends to start a “Happy Wives Club”. That club grew to an international, online community of over 150,000 members.

My favorite part of Fawn’s story is how she traveled to 12 countries, in 6 different continents, and interviewed couples who have been happily married for over 25 years. She gathered a list of what made their marriage a success and wrote a book called, “Happy Wives Club: One Woman’s Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage

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The best news? Her book releases tomorrow! I haven’t read it yet, but I honestly can’t wait to learn the 12 secrets these couples shared with her.

I did read a little “sneak peak” in a post Fawn wrote for Priscilla Shirer (over here)…here are 3 of the secrets to a happy marriage:

  1.  Choose your friends wisely: Surrounding yourself with others who build up marriage rather than attempt to tear it down is a must. People who believe in the power of love and the ability for a marriage to last a lifetime, these are the ones allowed into the inner circle of those happily married.
  2. Laugh your buttocks off! Don’t take yourself too seriously. Those happily married can joke about each other’s shortcomings, quirks and idiosyncrasies without getting offended.
  3. Have no plan B. Have no plan B; it distracts from plan A. Removing divorce from the marital equation removes the pressure to come to a resolution on a disagreement immediately. It lets you agree to disagree and helps you ease into discussions rather than crashing into arguments. Having no plan B allows love to prevail above all failures, mistakes, and doubts.

–Fawn Weaver, The Happy Wives Club

Pretty awesome, right? Wouldn’t you love to read 9 more? Apparently the book is described to be like “Eat, Pray, Love meets The 5 Love Languages.” You can grab a copy HERE.

**I guess it’s a “Marriage Monday” of sorts because I’m also over at the MOB Society today encouraging the mom who feels like she is failing as a wife. Click here to read more.

If Fawn interviewed you, what secret would you share to being a happy wife? 

If reading from your phone, click here to see a video promo for “Happy Wives Club”


  1. Lara

    Love it. And love that #2.

    • Heather MacFadyen

      right? laughter always helps us out in big, big ways! A little Tim Hawkins or Jim Gaffigan…always the best medicine for a grumpy marriage.

  2. Nicole

    Oh how I need this. Especially number 1 as I realized as I was reading this I yearn for friends like that and wonder how things might be different if I was surrounded by women building up marriage. And number 3…no plan B. WOW! Thank you!

    • Heather MacFadyen

      thankful they were helpful to you! I can’t wait to see what other amazing secrets Fawn shares in her book. Praying God brings some “happy wives” to surround you this year!

  3. Julie W

    Love This! Thanks as always! The Secret that I would share would be to pray for your husband, not for God to change him but to change me and how I’m looking at this or that.

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