Leaving Neverland

Oct 24, 2011

In Neverland, from “Peter Pan”, the lost boys don’t want to grow up. They fight pirates, battle Indians, tease mermaids and play all day.

In my personal “Neverland” I don’t grow up either.

I dwell on all the “nevers”. I narrow in on all the unfulfilled dreams. I’m a little lost girl, foolishly plotting my future.

When I go to my “Neverland” I’m not full of joy but sadness. And I continue to allow myself to go there. I listen to the lies. I hold tightly to my childish dreams thinking when they are fulfilled then I will be happy

I chose to be discontent in my Father’s plan. I don’t wanna grow up. I don’t want to see as Yahweh sees.

However, in order to find true and lasting “joy” (Hebrew: chara), I must chose to leave my “Neverland”. My obsession with the “nevers”. I must chose to grow up and leave childish ways behind me.

To chose His dreams over mine.

To trust His hand & not my heart.

What “Neverland” do you find yourself in right now?

  • Never have a husband who spiritually leads your family
  • Never be able to afford the home you are wanting
  • Never have children who are self-controlled
  • Never have the recognition you deserve at work
  • Never have close friends you can trust
  • Never __________________________

Instead of assuming that something will “never” happen, let’s keep our minds occupied with truth. The more I study His Word, the more truth I discover. The more I repeat those truths, the less room there is for the “nevers”.

I challenge you to consider what “Neverland” you are living in right now. What lies are you believing? What biblical truth can you find to dwell on? Ask God to reveal truth to you in the area you need. Allow Him to fill you with hope and to see as He sees. Let’s grow up together in our faith and leave “Neverland.”

“When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.” 1 Corinthians 13:11-12

{Wendy attempts to convince Peter that there is more to life than Neverland…

Peter: Why do you have to spoil everything? We have fun, don’t we? I taught you to fly and to fight. What more could there be?
Wendy: There is so much more.
Peter: What? What else is there?
Wendy: I don’t know. I guess it becomes clearer when you grow up.
Peter: Well, I will not grow up. You cannot make me! }

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  1. Nicole

    Thank you! After a blow up with my non-believing husband this morning and my thoughts of “He is NEVER going to believe, things are NEVER going to change,” your post hit the spot. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

    • Heather MacFadyen

      Nicole thank you for taking the time to comment. I was so humbled to know that God would use me to minister to you and your marriage. May you be strengthened to focus on truth and have hope for your future. {hugs}

  2. Kristin Schell (@theschellcafe)

    WOW. What a beautiful analogy. I’ve been living in a couple of Neverlands lately. Not fully believing The Lord ‘never’ intend for me to stay there. Thank you for the encouragement to fill up on Truth. I really needed to hear this right now.

    • Heather MacFadyen

      I am so grateful that it was helpful to you today. Thanks for sharing your experience. looking forward to meeting you in a couple days!

  3. sharla

    Ahhhh….great post! I often live in Neverland where one or two of those things on that list are concerned. I have been trying to focus lately on grabbing onto God’s truths and holding on for dear life. I really appreciate what you’ve written.

    • Heather MacFadyen

      thanks for the encouragement sharla!

  4. faithsweatandtears

    I liked the idea that Truth crowds out the Nevers. Great reminder; thank you!


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