Submission: the alternative to control issues
I have control issues.
I have a plan of how I think things should go and how people should behave.
My children need to behave so I look good. They need a nap because I need a break. My husband needs to handle the children the way I do because I know what’s best. We need to leave the house “right now”!
How I think things should go. How I think people should behave.
What happens when things go wrong? What happens when people don’t cooperate with my plan? What if the boys start fighting in the middle of a restaurant? What if my plans fall to pieces?
Anger, anxiety, frustration, unhappiness…
But I continue to try to control. to plan. to manipulate.
When I claimed to be a follower of Christ, I chose to live a life in submission to God’s calling.
Jesus was the ultimate example of true humility. He was completely God-centered. Yes, Jesus is God but He also yielded His will to His father. “He took the place of entire subordination, and gave God the honor and the glory due to Him” (Andrew Murray).
“I have come down from heaven not to do my will but to do the will of him who sent me.” (John 6:38)
“I have not come on my own; but he sent me.” (John 8:42)
“I do nothing on my own but speak just what the Father has taught me.” (John 8:28)
God’s will was for Jesus to die on the cross to take away the sins of the world to re-establish communion with God. Death on a cross was the plan Jesus had to submit to.
The Ultimate Sacrifice.
Jesus had power. He could have come up with His own plan…A solution that didn’t involve His death. But He didn’t. He trusted His father to be all-knowing. He trusted His father to be good. He trusted the plan.
“He was nothing that God might be all. He resigned Himself with His will and His powers entirely for the Father to work in Him…He lost nothing by giving all to God. God honored His trust, and did all for him, and then exalted Him to His own right hand in glory…the being and doing nothing of ourselves, that God may be all.” (Andrew Murray)
In the process of humbling myself, of “relentlessly replacing ‘me’ with ‘He’, am I willing to follow Jesus’ example…to be nothing…to resign myself to God’s will…to be and do nothing of myself?
My two options:
1) The self-centered, proud, controlling approach which leads to anxiety, anger, and bitterness.
2) The God-centered, humble, submission approach which leads to honor, eternal exaltation, and God’s glory.
“Acknowledge your need for Me! Cast your cares upon Me (1 Peter 5:7), and I will transform you. For though I’m opposed to your pride, I’ll give grace to you when you humble yourself, and I’ll make you care free—not responsibility free, but care free. You’ll be free from care. You’ll instead be characterized by joy and peace.” (C.J. Mahaney)
Choose today. Begin your day in submission to His will for your day. It may not match your plan but you can rest and be free to know that it’s His plan. He is a good God. He loves you. He makes this promise…
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11)
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